Going through a divorce or separation is never easy. It’s a part of life that can drain you physically and emotionally. When you have had that special someone as a significant part in your life, the thought of “What next?” is almost unbearable to even think of.

The fear of uncertainty, the unknown, it can be scary knowing that a huge change has just happened in your life.

It’s a difficult time for anyone, and you may feel unsure what the next step is, but remember you aren’t alone.

Take the time to grieve

There are going to be a lot of emotions following a separation.

You can become overwhelmed with shock, grief, anger and sadness. Let them all out. If you push these feelings away for too long, they can cause conflict within yourself, which will do more harm to you in the future.

These emotions are completely normal and a necessary part of moving on. It’s completely healthy to think about the good and the bad moments from your relationship.

There is no time limit on this. Take as much time as you need to move on.

Get to know yourself again

• When was the last time you did something for yourself?
• Do you know your own interests and hobbies?
• Do you take time out to enjoy your leisure time?
• How do you enjoy your own time?

It’s so important to use this time to learn to get to know and love yourself again.

Go for a walk and take in the scenery, take a pottery or art class. Doing these things will help you learn what it is you enjoy doing – and set you on your way to being at peace with your own company.

Surround yourself with a positive circle

Having a great support network is life changing.

When you are able to open up your feelings to someone and communicate, it can make a world of difference in how you feel.

Knowing you have friends and family you can turn to when times are tough means that you’ll never be alone, and you will always have someone to talk to.

It’s perfectly normal to struggle living your life and finding your own independence after an ending of a relationship.

Just because your relationship has ended, doesn’t mean to have to stop living your life to the fullest.

Are you struggling to love yourself after a relationship? Maybe coaching is for you.