Do you find it hard to say no?
Sure, it’s a simple 2 letter word, but saying it out loud to someone can feel extremely difficult.
Have you ever had someone ask you for a favour and before you even have time to think, you’ve blurted out “Yes, I can do that!”, only to realise a few seconds later that you didn’t really want to do it?
Learning to say no isn’t something that will happen overnight, but it is something you can begin to work on today.
Signs You Need To Start Saying No More Often
So how do you find out if you need to start saying no more often?
- Pretend to agree with many different opinions, despite having an alternate view?
- Feel overworked or burnt out?
- Struggle to find the time or energy for the things that matter to you most in life?
- Often feel regret after saying “yes” to someone?
These are all signs that you should be using the word no much more often!
Why Saying No Can Be a Good Thing
Saying no, is actually a form of self-care.
“Saying yes to happiness means learning to say no to the things and people that stress you out.” – Thema Davis
When you say no to someone, it means that you value your own time. You are able to open yourself up to the experiences that you want in life!
How To Start Saying No
If saying no is something that is entirely new for you, it’s going to take some practice. Start with acknowledging that you may feel guilty after saying that 2 letter word.
No is short and sharp and doesn’t end in “ess”
No is no, and remember you don’t have to explain yourself.
No can be hard to say especially if you have been saying “yes” to everything.
I bet you can say “no” if it would hurt your children, partner or loved ones. Now give yourself the same respect and say no when things are not a good fit.
You can also go back and correct your yeses if necessary.
The important thing to remember is, no matter the guilt you feel, you should do it anyway.
Most people will be grateful for your honesty. If you come across someone who isn’t, chances are they don’t have your best interest in mind.
Here are some ways to say no without actually saying NO:
• Unfortunately that doesn’t fit in my schedule.
• I would love to, but I just don’t have the time.
• That sounds like an amazing opportunity but I will have to give it a miss this time.
Practice saying these in the mirror, or with someone you trust and feel comfortable around. Having a few go-to phrases will come in handy when someone asks you to do something you don’t want to do.
If you’re wanting to learn more, book a FREE discovery call with me today. Let’s get that 2 letter word added to your vocabulary!